We find peace in being supported by others.
When expressing our ideas to the people around us, we more often look for acceptance rather than criticism of our thoughts. This innate desire for our thoughts and ideas to be accepted by the world around us drives us to surround ourselves with people who think and act like us.
Our friends are more likely to agree with our ideas than strangers on the street; which is a major reason for why we surround ourselves with them. They are more likely to go with you to your favorite restaurant, see the movie you want to watch, and support you in your career goals.
Having people who support what you do and say in life is critical. You need to know when to pull the trigger on your ideas and having people who support your decisions often serves to take a weight off your shoulders.
You become less anxious with supportive people in your life, and you become more confident in the general direction your life is taking. Spending life alone and making decisions without the support of anyone around you is a scary thing to do, it is not conducive to good decision-making habits.
A problem arises however, when the people around you become so supportive that they shy away from providing criticism when you deserve it. Having people around you to put a stop to your potential in making bad decisions is just as important as having people who support your good ideas.
Having people who support what you do and say in life is critical. You need to know when to pull the trigger on your ideas and having people who support your decisions often serves to take a weight off your shoulders.
A problem arises however, when the people around you become so supportive that they shy away from providing criticism when you deserve it. Having people around you to put a stop to your potential in making bad decisions is just as important as having people who support your good ideas.
This quick article hopes to explain why having “yes men” around you is a dangerous thing, and proposes one simple way you can know if you’re in fact surrounded by such individuals.
You Need Someone To Protect You From Yourself
You will make bad decisions in your lifetime. They may even be terrible. Catching bad ideas prior to their execution via action is an obviously good method of alleviating the stress which they may cause in the future. Our confidence is often misguided in the many things that we do.
Bad decisions are often seen clearer from the third-person perspective. Surrounding yourself with people who do not automatically say, “Yes,” to everything that you propose is critical in saving yourself from the ideas that seem so right until they go wrong.
You should fight the urge to surround yourself with people who tend to only agree with you. Look for trusted companions who are not afraid to disagree with you, and do not automatically label them as jealous, envious, or uneducated on the subject when they do. You should take criticism from those close to you with utmost seriousness, and try to align your view of the decision making process with an objective, third person perspective.
A circumstance in which those around you think twice about disagreeing with your obviously incorrect methods of doing and thinking will result in bad news down the line. Though it feels good in the height of your power around such “yes men,” those same individuals will help cultivate a hellish experience for you as you realize the mistakes you made whilst being encouraged to make them.
You should fight the urge to surround yourself with people who tend to only agree with you. Look for trusted companions who are not afraid to disagree with you, and do not automatically label them as jealous, envious, or uneducated on the subject when they do. You should take criticism from those close to you with utmost seriousness, and try to align your view of the decision making process with an objective, third person perspective.
What Will Happen If the Yes Men Run Amok
As you begin to realize that others encouraged you to act and think in ways which hurt you in the long run, you won’t know who to direct your anger toward. Likelier than not, you’ll direct that anger at yourself at first. You’ll regret surrounding yourself with individuals who propagate your every move without auditing it with any sort of care. You’ll feel as though you need to change who you surround yourself with, and may begin going down a spiral of distrust and paranoia.
What you sacrifice by not hearing the painful truth in the moment, you’ll pay back with regret down the line. You’ll be unable to fix mistakes which result from your overconfidence in your own perception. You won’t be able to control the variables which surround bad decisions, such as time going by and the public’s perception of those mistakes. You’ll feel trapped. You won’t be able to take back words you said and actions you committed whilst under the hypnosis of those who always propped you up.
Do not fall in love with hearing how good your ideas are from those around you. You are a human being, and you will be wrong. Looking at a situation from all angles requires the unbiased opinions of others – including the ones who tell you how terrible your decision-making skills tend to sometimes be.
They will save you from regret-filled sleepless nights in the future. Most of all, disagreeable people save you from the invisible, numbing, blade that the overly agreeable stab you with. Any opponents you have in life will have an advantage if your decisions are not properly vetted by those around you. Making preventable mistakes stemming from your own overconfidence in things is a painful way to lose.
Do not fall in love with hearing how good your ideas are from those around you. You are a human being, and you will be wrong. Looking at a situation from all angles requires the unbiased opinions of others – including the ones who tell you how terrible your decision-making skills tend to sometimes be.
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